Many ask me the meaning of “detachment”. Is it really something we want to incorporate in our lives? I always associated detachment with “not caring” and if detachment meant not caring for my loved ones, it was definitely something I did not want to assimilate. How absurdly wrong I was!
“You only lose what you cling to” – Buddha
Mindful Meditation lies on the founding principle of “observing”. Initially, observing the breath and gradually observing all the sensations in our body. Our body stores feelings in the form of sensations. When we like something, our subconscious mind recognizes the created sensations and craves for more. When we dislike something, our subconscious mind recognizes the created sensations and tries to avert it. These cravings and aversions are caused due to attachment. Mindful meditation trains and sharpens your conscious mind to recognize these sensations associated with the feelings.
Detachment does not mean you stop caring. It only means that trifle things around you cannot change your mind on LOVE. Love becomes a default feeling where there is no place for blame or any conditions. It is magical when one is filled with love! Detachment only results in unconditional love. The kind that a mother has for her child. It is much deeper than you and I can probably comprehend. Clinging and infatuation is temporary. Today, you might love something more than you could imagine and tomorrow, may be due to conditions out of your control, you might hate the same thing. This kind of love is conditional.
Going a little deeper in your meditation practice:
Please refer this guide if you are an absolute beginner Beginner’s Guide to Mindful Meditation
When you practice…
- It is important to remember that you are training your mind to break the age-old habit of wandering and reacting to situations. Since we are born with this quality, it will require some time, dedication and consistency to re-train the mind.
- Whenever your mind wanders to an uninvited thought, as soon as you realize it, get your mind back to the breath. The most important thing is to remember that you cannot get frustrated or feel even the slightest anger when this happens. Just be calm and get your mind back to observing your breath.
- Feel the sensations on the tip of your nose, on the part above your lips and around the nostrils. This is your initial area of observation. When we do this, our mind is becoming focussed and subsequently strengthening concentration. The goal here is to feel every sensation around this part. Do not make up feelings or sensations. Only observe what is there! It could be the warm air coming out of your nostrils, hot air hitting the walls of your nostrils, cool air hitting the part above your lips, itching, twitching, sweat, wetness, moisture or just vibrations. Think of it as scanning. The most important thing here is to not react! Just observe. The quality of being calm and in control, no matter the situation, is what we are looking to achieve.
Observation and equanimity are the two arms of mindful meditation.
Once we are well in control of our thoughts and understand this nature of observation, we will proceed to observing not just a part of the body, but the entire body. The conscious mind is getting trained to be sharper, more focussed and observe things that only our subconscious mind did until now. Later, when we scan our entire body, we will be able to feel the blood flow and natural vibrations in our body. But remember, this requires practice. DEDICATION, PATIENCE and CONSISTENCY in your practice is absolutely essential to get the best benefits. You can surely allot 30 mins of your day to achieve control over your mind. After all, there is no worse enemy than one’s own defiled mind!